Live Your Life for You: 5 Benefits of Embracing Who You Really Are – Tiny Buddha“Live your life for you, not for anyone else. Don’t let the fear of being judged, rejected or disliked stop you from being yourself. ” ~ Sonya Parker I have struggled with my different-ness since I was young. I grew up trying to change the things that made me different in order to fit in. At home, my parents were doing their best to raise three young children, which I can imagine would’ve been very hard. I can still remember the first time I asked myself, ” What is wrong with me?” I loved to take my time and have everything neat and tidy; my family, on the other hand, was the complete opposite. I wanted to belong and feel loved by them, so I tried my hardest to change the things about me that seemed to cause them stress. Being neat and tidy reflected in the way I would dress myself. One morning, when I was getting ready for my first day of school, my parents gave me socks to wear that didn’t match. I got very upset, and although they tried to understand what the problem was, they couldn’t help but be frustrated with me, as I was making the morning more difficult. We were also running late. I wanted to take my time and not be hurried. This caused us to run even later and made my parents even more stressed. I felt so guilty to have made them feel like this. Trying to change these things that were a big part of who I was created inner conflict, and I would have big tantrums as a result. This would cause my parents stress as well, so eventually I stopped expressing my feelings. I became ashamed of the things that made me different. I was shy.